I had the best time of my life at prom. It was what I thought and more. I dance with my friends and took pictures with everyone and saw everyone lookingh reallllly nice. I feel like that teachers were surprise to see everyone more importantly was surrprise to to see Sienna and Stephaine. I really wished that it could be long and that we could go back
Even the after party that I want to at a club was fun. danced and had some laughs with my friends. We got to sienna house at 6 in the morning and did not go to bed until 6 30 and ate while the sun rised. I spend it with people that I love and care alot about. And we are spending the whole weekend together.
And I think that these teachers are getting carried away. Thinking that we are coming to school or even be home to do homework. Prom really help me see that I am out of this school and how happy I am to be out of the school. Overall I had the best time and can"t wait to be out of a school that is driving my crazy
Saturday, May 28, 2011
Tuesday, May 24, 2011
HW 58 - Prom Interviews
Sage: I don't think it is like what they show on tv but I think it is going to be like a sweet 16. I am happy and can't wait but at the same time I just want to give it over with because I feel like people are going crazy over what they going to look like and what other people look like.
Aisatou: I am really happy and I can't wait it is is in 2 days. I don't think it is not going like what proms are like because of where we live. I also think that it is going to be the live of everyones life. I feel like that whole let's get drunk this is so sad and I feel like that is going to mess up people night.
My sister: I went to prom a while ago, but from what I remember I had a lot of fun. I had a date and he can and picked me up took pictures with him and my family. When we got to prom we danced and had laughed and thought about all the good times we had. And after we hung up and we want to ihop. I didn't get home until 6 in the morning.
Jamel: I had a good time. Even though I passed out due to my seizures. My friends helped my out and we went back to having home. I don't remember what time I got home I just know I had fun. And now I am going to go with my girlfriend to her prom and then go with my best friend to hers.
Grandma: I had a prom but I didn't go because I was pregnant with my oldest son. But if I did go to prom I thought there was going to be punch and talking and dancing, But not nasty because there were teachers there. And then after prom I would go home because I lived in a small town and there was nothing else to do.
My aunt: I did go to prom and I had a lot of fun. It was a nice way to end the year saying good-bye to everyone and seeing people dressed up differently then they did when they just came to school. And it was cool to see people that really quiet at prom and dance and have fun.
I noticed that people can't wait to see people get dress up and see the quiet people have fun since they didn't really. I think that people always think that this night is going to be the best night of our life. And I think that since everyone that we talk to all say that it is the best night so we just think that it is. But what about the people that don't go what do they do.
Aisatou: I am really happy and I can't wait it is is in 2 days. I don't think it is not going like what proms are like because of where we live. I also think that it is going to be the live of everyones life. I feel like that whole let's get drunk this is so sad and I feel like that is going to mess up people night.
My sister: I went to prom a while ago, but from what I remember I had a lot of fun. I had a date and he can and picked me up took pictures with him and my family. When we got to prom we danced and had laughed and thought about all the good times we had. And after we hung up and we want to ihop. I didn't get home until 6 in the morning.
Jamel: I had a good time. Even though I passed out due to my seizures. My friends helped my out and we went back to having home. I don't remember what time I got home I just know I had fun. And now I am going to go with my girlfriend to her prom and then go with my best friend to hers.
Grandma: I had a prom but I didn't go because I was pregnant with my oldest son. But if I did go to prom I thought there was going to be punch and talking and dancing, But not nasty because there were teachers there. And then after prom I would go home because I lived in a small town and there was nothing else to do.
My aunt: I did go to prom and I had a lot of fun. It was a nice way to end the year saying good-bye to everyone and seeing people dressed up differently then they did when they just came to school. And it was cool to see people that really quiet at prom and dance and have fun.
I noticed that people can't wait to see people get dress up and see the quiet people have fun since they didn't really. I think that people always think that this night is going to be the best night of our life. And I think that since everyone that we talk to all say that it is the best night so we just think that it is. But what about the people that don't go what do they do.
Saturday, May 21, 2011
HW 57 - Initial Thoughts on Prom
My thoughts on prom is that I am hoping that is going to fun. Since I am a senior i actully get to go to a prom and see the things that everyone talks about and see the thinks that I thought it would. I think that I will still have fun even if it is not what other people thought it would be good because I always have fun with what every I do. I think that even though we all can't wait to get out this school this is going to be one night that we wish we can do over and over again. As well as a night we feel the beginning of evertything changing. It is kind of like when you turn 16 and you have a party and at the end of the night you think you are a different person and things are going to change, but they don't. Well this is the same but yet different. You still get that feeling but this time it is true.
Prom will be the beginning of the happy parade. Then graduation comes and then the first day of college where most of us will be on our own. Trying to figure out what works and what doesn't work. Leaving our friends and starting all over. So I think that we will talk about why prom looked at like it is the best night ever.
What I wnat to know is why is so much money?
What about the people that don't go. How do they feel?
Should we really be happy that soon we will be on our own?
How do the teachers that go to prom every year feel about prom?
Prom will be the beginning of the happy parade. Then graduation comes and then the first day of college where most of us will be on our own. Trying to figure out what works and what doesn't work. Leaving our friends and starting all over. So I think that we will talk about why prom looked at like it is the best night ever.
What I wnat to know is why is so much money?
What about the people that don't go. How do they feel?
Should we really be happy that soon we will be on our own?
How do the teachers that go to prom every year feel about prom?
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
HW 56 - Culminating Project Comments
Hey Sarah,
I think that it is cool that you can sit down and think about they way to want to be care for after you die. Because the truth is thst even though we have been talking about it in class I have not really stuck to what I want because I don't want to think about me dying. But I like how you want to be put in the water because it makes you calm. And to be die and still be in an place that you calm in is cool. And my miami? just wonder.
Hey Abdul,
I think that it was cool that you could sit down and really talk to your mom about this. As well as her taking this serious because i know that we all going to die but not everyone can talk about nor go out and change the will. So think that is a good relations that you and your mother have good job
Hey Ariel,
I think your post is really funny. It made want to read your blog as well as good to watch. I think this is so you to make a joke into everything and have fun in life, so why wouldn't you have fun you death. Good Job.
Hey Larche,
I like how you explained what a home funreal is to that if people didn't know they know do. I also like how you have a quote. As well as write all the soucres that you use good. But I like you explain why home funeral is a good thing. I think home funerals are a good thing to really say bye to your love ones. What do you think you would do or want done for you?
Hey Jessica,
I think that it brave of you to your friend about her grandmother. And I think it is sad they had to be there when she died. I think that is sad that her kids will not get to know their grandmother. But I think you should talked tou her about the things we learned about in class.
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meliwitz said...
Bryanna,
what strikes me is about your blog is the conversations with your family members and the fact that some have never really thought about dying.
The family would like for it to be celebratory, but I think the reality is that many people's emotional state goes through the stages that require us to morn and then reflect on the loss and the memories that remain.
It seems that this class has offered you an opportunity to talk with your family about many aspects of life that everyone can connect to.
ariel b. said...
You are very much right. An honest opinion is always great. I found what you said about peoples reactions to be humorous. Yet i agree some people might feel disrespected when you ask them questions like that. But have you wondered why? i think that it might be because they are scared of reality and prefer to ignore the fact that they will die. It was nice that you say you don't want others to be too worried about your death because your fun and funny. I feel the same way but since i know i like to give to others that's why i'd like resomation.
jessica c said...
i thought you had a good project going. i like towards the end about you and your mother. when you said that even though you and your mother have different view on religion, that it couldve been different for the way you guys care. but its not and i think that is very common with everybody. it doesnt matter what religion someone believes in (if they even do)it still comes down to one thing. they still believe in the person is in a good place and that no matter where they are, they are happy and accepted
good job.
I think that it is cool that you can sit down and think about they way to want to be care for after you die. Because the truth is thst even though we have been talking about it in class I have not really stuck to what I want because I don't want to think about me dying. But I like how you want to be put in the water because it makes you calm. And to be die and still be in an place that you calm in is cool. And my miami? just wonder.
Hey Abdul,
I think that it was cool that you could sit down and really talk to your mom about this. As well as her taking this serious because i know that we all going to die but not everyone can talk about nor go out and change the will. So think that is a good relations that you and your mother have good job
Hey Ariel,
I think your post is really funny. It made want to read your blog as well as good to watch. I think this is so you to make a joke into everything and have fun in life, so why wouldn't you have fun you death. Good Job.
Hey Larche,
I like how you explained what a home funreal is to that if people didn't know they know do. I also like how you have a quote. As well as write all the soucres that you use good. But I like you explain why home funeral is a good thing. I think home funerals are a good thing to really say bye to your love ones. What do you think you would do or want done for you?
Hey Jessica,
I think that it brave of you to your friend about her grandmother. And I think it is sad they had to be there when she died. I think that is sad that her kids will not get to know their grandmother. But I think you should talked tou her about the things we learned about in class.
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meliwitz said...
Bryanna,
what strikes me is about your blog is the conversations with your family members and the fact that some have never really thought about dying.
The family would like for it to be celebratory, but I think the reality is that many people's emotional state goes through the stages that require us to morn and then reflect on the loss and the memories that remain.
It seems that this class has offered you an opportunity to talk with your family about many aspects of life that everyone can connect to.
ariel b. said...
You are very much right. An honest opinion is always great. I found what you said about peoples reactions to be humorous. Yet i agree some people might feel disrespected when you ask them questions like that. But have you wondered why? i think that it might be because they are scared of reality and prefer to ignore the fact that they will die. It was nice that you say you don't want others to be too worried about your death because your fun and funny. I feel the same way but since i know i like to give to others that's why i'd like resomation.
jessica c said...
i thought you had a good project going. i like towards the end about you and your mother. when you said that even though you and your mother have different view on religion, that it couldve been different for the way you guys care. but its not and i think that is very common with everybody. it doesnt matter what religion someone believes in (if they even do)it still comes down to one thing. they still believe in the person is in a good place and that no matter where they are, they are happy and accepted
good job.
Extra Credit Opportunities 2
1. Living had never been just a habit
I had been enjoying it, every piece n bit
Each new day, it spread a canvas before me
With thousand colors around, it asked me - what you want to be!
Golden or silver, I never worried about the canvas frame
With my heart in every cell, I couldn't put it on sale!
As life kept breathing, I sketched along
People around me appraised, few set me wrong
I saw around me, thousand walls with painted thoughts
Each one different, reminding me of lessons taught
Indulged in self, walls of thoughts raised so high
No one around, neither the horizon, nor the sky
The place that I lived every inch, was suddenly dark in red
Buried under 'ME' and my canvas, I found myself dead! (By Suhrud Potdar,1/28/2010)
This poem is about living. That she was living in her own world, until she realize that she is dead.
2. Walking through the path of death,
Feeling in my heart the devil's breath.
Trees of decay as my companion,
I take every step as a caution.
Rocks crumbled under my feet,
Ghosts of my haunted past I meet.
There is nothing alive,
Only the remains of our wretched lives.
Shadows hiding in the trees,
I plead with them to let me be.
I breathe in the air of sweet decay,
Monstrous statues blocking my way,
Life is but a hideous dream,
A mask on which the sun beams.
Death is our only reality,
A world where everything is petty.
Gravestones rose up before my eyes,
In harmony with my defeated sighs.
I place flowers on the stones,
Crumbling my shattered bones.
A white rose appeared,
The gift of a most adored seer.
My feelings are frozen,
Your words are poison.
I see bodies paving my way forward,
Sweer decay curving upward.
I had once admired this scene,
But now its what it seems.
The flowers fadeth,
The bodies withered.
Kneel in front of gravestones,
And mourn the passing of mournful tones. (By Ariadne-Katheryn Howard Boleyn Seymour Parr Tudor of Aragorn, 2/8/2011)
This poem is talkig about walking through the thoughts of death. I think that line "Life is but a hideous dream, A mask on which the sun beams.Death is our only reality," is a powerful line because it is saying that the life we live if not real but it end just like dreams do where as death is real because it will never end.
3. In my prison all a lone,
Hoping and praying for life,
Life is near;
In my prison all a lone,
Hoping and praying for life,
Life is hear;
I am born but born to die,
In my world all alone
Hoping and praying for death;
Death is near,
Death is hear,
I am dead;
Dead,
Dead!
But free.(By Eamon J Healy, 10/4/2010)
I think that is poem is talking about someone being in prison and wanting to to live then wanting to die.
4. I single rose lying dead in a field
It lies there lifeless nothing it can feel.
Once a thing of beauty but a thing of beauty no more
Causing pain to those close to it somewhat like myself
Now it lies forgotten, lying in that field.(By christopher humphrey, 1/1/2010)
This poem is comparing their selve to a rose. How this think was once there but now it is not. Just like we will be on day done.
5. There shall be no more of me
No more of my presents
No more of my face
I will be gone FOREVER
U will regret what you have said
What you have done
OR what you didn't do
& if I shall die 2day don't blame yourself
Simply blame the people who put me down
My shield is getting weaker & weaker each day
My pain is getting worse
My attempts & thoughts are all for a reason
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When I die I will soon go to hell (OR heaven if god believes in me)
Sometimes I wonder my fate for when I'm gone
Will people care ?
Will people even remember me ?
Will they be sad?--or will they even cry ?
Unanswered questions is all I have
I will die a painful death
& no one will care
I will be watching from above or maybe haunting you from below
That is what I think will happen
IF....I.....DIE.....(By Shai Murphy, 7/13/2010)
This poem is getting at the idea that if they die people will have to tell with it. That it is going to be them that has to deal with the fact that they didn't do or say the things that they want to say to her.
6. I can't say these words just yet.
I know it shouldn't be hard, but there is just too much regret.
I said them once before.
But back in the day, I was hurt once more...
He left me, with the ring on my finger.
He hurt me, and yet my heart still lingered.
I said those deathly words once before.
And got hurt more and more.
To say that in which could not be.
I know I promise I won't regret thee.
You say you love me.
But I can't help be see your need to be free.
Your need to rome, your need to live.
I see this and so I want to give.
But you refuse to let me go.
You say I am just scared, I only act to show.
So I say this one last time.
These words that should be a crime.
My dearest heart.
The one that brought me back start.
I Love You, with every breath,
And every beat in my chest. (By Elizabeth Cromer, 3/10/2010)
This poem is talking about losing someone. About the fact that they left her and she didn't even know it was coming. And that she still can't say that he is gone.
7. Alone,
Hoping and praying for life,
Looking for life,
I am born!
But?
Born to die,
In my world all alone,
Hoping and praying for death,
I am dead!
Dead!
But free.(By Eamon J Healy, 10/4/2010)
I feel like this poem is getting the fact that we are dying to live when in the end we live so that we can die. And that whwn we are dead we are free.
8. Shhh...no need to cry
I'm dead, I can't die
It's already too late
My soul is now gone
I'll miss what I never had
I'll miss my never existing dad
I'll miss my tears
I'll miss the loneliness
I'll miss the life filled with misery
The life that only brought me a broken destiny
I'll miss it all...close my coffin door, for I have to go...nice knowing this fucked up world...but I now have to go......BYE!!
This is a cool poem because it written as if the person is dead what they will be saying as they are dead. Like what if you can still think when you dead you can't do everything else would people still be scared of dead?
9. I will try to pay this debt
but debt payment isn't like perfume my sweet
It will not mask the stench of treachery that has become your burden... will it...?
This remorse has gnawed at my conscience for so long
That what heart I ever had...
Has been eaten away
I feel empty
I feel alone
I'm no one
I have nothing
Yet you expect me to be happy- for you
And for your own benefit
But what bout me?
You never cared anyway did you
You never thought I was worth it...
I want to be repentant for what I did
There is no peace
Without repentance
Do you understand?
Do you want to?
Will you ever?
You have too much pride to be contrite
That's the problem
Oh I know my flaws
I know them well
But does this mean I can fix them?
No
It does not
Too late
It is for me
I am too late
To be saved
So ill drown in you hatred
And you love
You life
And wish forever more
I had not been... xo (By Katie murphy)
Once again death is being talked about as the beginning. As if one you die you are a different person or like you can start things all over.
10. Your spirit flows through the room
I feel the bass of your heart
Your eyes seep into my soul
As I sit and weep
Vines sweetly bind my wrists
To the bed we called home
All your love pours through my bones
As I scream out pain
Swirls of passion fill the room
Music flows as wind through air
Pain is not so near at all
As I get intombed by you(By Tara Takemoto)
Can we really still feel someone after they die. Or is that the only way that we can cope with the fact that someone die.
11. People say you get flashbacks when you die,
some say in the clouds your soul will fly.
Some say you couldn't breathe,
I say you will always bleed.
There will be no sunrise,
everyone will pay such a price.
There is only eternal darkness,
the end to all your passions and lust.
You smell sweet decay, endless fall and white roses,
We feel your last breath entering our noses.
There is no turning back,
there is no end of this taste of death.
So sleep, in your only memory,
let this chapter be an end to your story.
There is no happy ending,
they are only for the weakling.
We all loved you, worship you, adored you,
but now we must let death become you.
It is time to let you go,
and drive pain away from your road.
Goodbye, flightless bird
Let no joyful sounds be heard.
It's our time to die,
when we will forever fly
"But now we must let death become you"this is powerful. To say that is saying that you are no longer you. You become like every other die person and just become death.
12. Can you see me watching you
From the shadows of your mind?
Can you hear me sigh my deepest sigh
On the whispering rain?
Can you hear your bell tolling
Ringing out your last refrain?
Your sands have fallen through the waistband,
I am here to take you home.
Close your eyes and sleep my child,
Your candle no longer shines,
The pain you had has all gone now,
Feel my peace engulf your mind,
Place yourself inside your soul
And fly with me on the wind,
For I am here to take you home,
Just reach out and hold my hand.
Misery no longer rules
With arduous exhaustive toil,
It's time to leave the netherworld,
It's time to answer to my call,
I'll take you to another realm
Where peace and beauty reign as one,
Just follow me, my earthly child,
I am here to take you home.
13. This feeling I have ,
Will it ever go away ?
These thoughts I have,
Will they ever go away ?
Will I ever be able to talk about it .
Or will I just keep it to myself ?
Will my heart ever heal,
Or will I just have to deal?
My mind says one day I will be ready,
Ready to live on.
My heart says how,
How can I live on with out you.
My soul says not to cry,
Because your safe and being cared for.
But I still cry .
Why ,why did it have to be you?
You were my world ,my everything.
Why did you have to go?
I miss you so much.
Why did you have to suffer?
Why did they have to take you?
If I could hold you one more time,
Kiss you just one last time,
Just hold your little hand to let you know I'll always be with you.
If only you were here.
If only you knew how much I love and miss you.
You are forever in my heart.
This is talking about the paian one feels after they lose someone. And just really trying to understand what is going on.
14. I am trapped in this eternal slumber,
Falling into blackness so dark, so deep;
My heart is confined and encumbered
As my soul remains in immortal sleep.
Lies shroud my eyes so that I cannot see,
Deception holds my tongue -unable to speak-
Manipulation binds my hands behind me;
I fade into the abyss of the helpless and weak.
God, the pain just continues to linger within;
I don't know how to escape or what I should do.
Love always brings to me the gift of oblivion
And, for me, it has not yet been found to be true.
Endless suffering and torture consume my life
And yet I slip into shadows that numb my soul.
I just stare at the black but gleaming knife:
"Will tearing myself apart make me whole?"
I scream into the night until my lungs bleed dry
But I stand here watching my frail prayers collapse.
My cries are all in vain, falling from the black sky;
I realize that the emotions I feel are only hidden traps.
So I am trapped in this eternal slumber,
Falling into blackness so dark, so deep;
My heart is confined and encumbered
As my soul remains in immortal sleep,
But as I lie here, slowly wasting away,
My heart silently continues hoping.
It whispers only one thing as it prays
As it waits for myself to find awakening:
"Rising from the ashes of our wake, I hold these shadows close around me. Maybe darkness will make the pain fade away and bring comfort to my empty and yearning soul..."
15. Mom I just blew all my thoughts away. And in the end I didn't even mind. The roses are outside and it's snowing, while you all cry over my grave. Mom, I couldn't take it anymore, the dark was calling me.
If you hear a voice Mom, don't you quit trying to listen. Be who you are and forget about me. I'll never loose your picture perfect smile Mom, but I won't miss it either.
On a winter's night a cool breeze blew from you to me and I knew what I had to do. It was obvious that you wanted me gone, you didn't care at all. There was no where to turn Mom, the silence filled my head.
The night's grasp had a hold of me, and he wasn't letting go. Mom I know the true color of crying, all these things I didn't have to know, but learned along the way.
That night I sat at the weeping willow and thought about the wind. It Whipered a sweet melody to me mom, it told me the choice was right.
So I cocked the gun, pulled off my hat and pulled it to my brain. BOOM. All the lost days and nights that flew by me without recollection are now flashing in my eyes.
Mom I'm forever lost, and I learned the deepest hurt. The purple midnight was smooth as I fell to the snow covered ground. At this time all my unspoken words, Mom, where screamed.
Thump, thump..thump...thump.....thump........thump
My last heartbeat struck as it became nothing of importance.
I learned the truth, lies, sadness, pros, cons, problems and situations of life, Mom....
And I know you won't even cry when you read this.
From reading these poems I don't really have a favorite, they all mad me thing and ask what we really think about death. Like do we really feel that once we die we become death. Are we no longer the person we was before we did? Or that fact that we are all scared to die because we can't move or think. But what if we could think but couldn't move woul we still be scared? With out these answers we live life trying to make sure evern moment least to really in some ways killer us faster.
But my favortie lines are "But now we must let death become you, "Life is but a hideous dream, A mask on which the sun beams.Death is our only reality". I just feel like they really show we all think about death. Life we get this dream to have it pulled away from us to die and be there for ever and become nothing.
But as a matter of fact my favorite poem is the rose poem.
"I single rose lying dead in a field
It lies there lifeless nothing it can feel.
Once a thing of beauty but a thing of beauty no more
Causing pain to those close to it somewhat like myself
Now it lies forgotten, lying in that field." I like it becaus people always compares them self to a rose. As if we all these beautiful think that everyone wants and needs. But we are not, so why a rose you not anything esle. It just makes me wonder.
I had been enjoying it, every piece n bit
Each new day, it spread a canvas before me
With thousand colors around, it asked me - what you want to be!
Golden or silver, I never worried about the canvas frame
With my heart in every cell, I couldn't put it on sale!
As life kept breathing, I sketched along
People around me appraised, few set me wrong
I saw around me, thousand walls with painted thoughts
Each one different, reminding me of lessons taught
Indulged in self, walls of thoughts raised so high
No one around, neither the horizon, nor the sky
The place that I lived every inch, was suddenly dark in red
Buried under 'ME' and my canvas, I found myself dead! (By Suhrud Potdar,1/28/2010)
This poem is about living. That she was living in her own world, until she realize that she is dead.
2. Walking through the path of death,
Feeling in my heart the devil's breath.
Trees of decay as my companion,
I take every step as a caution.
Rocks crumbled under my feet,
Ghosts of my haunted past I meet.
There is nothing alive,
Only the remains of our wretched lives.
Shadows hiding in the trees,
I plead with them to let me be.
I breathe in the air of sweet decay,
Monstrous statues blocking my way,
Life is but a hideous dream,
A mask on which the sun beams.
Death is our only reality,
A world where everything is petty.
Gravestones rose up before my eyes,
In harmony with my defeated sighs.
I place flowers on the stones,
Crumbling my shattered bones.
A white rose appeared,
The gift of a most adored seer.
My feelings are frozen,
Your words are poison.
I see bodies paving my way forward,
Sweer decay curving upward.
I had once admired this scene,
But now its what it seems.
The flowers fadeth,
The bodies withered.
Kneel in front of gravestones,
And mourn the passing of mournful tones. (By Ariadne-Katheryn Howard Boleyn Seymour Parr Tudor of Aragorn, 2/8/2011)
This poem is talkig about walking through the thoughts of death. I think that line "Life is but a hideous dream, A mask on which the sun beams.Death is our only reality," is a powerful line because it is saying that the life we live if not real but it end just like dreams do where as death is real because it will never end.
3. In my prison all a lone,
Hoping and praying for life,
Life is near;
In my prison all a lone,
Hoping and praying for life,
Life is hear;
I am born but born to die,
In my world all alone
Hoping and praying for death;
Death is near,
Death is hear,
I am dead;
Dead,
Dead!
But free.(By Eamon J Healy, 10/4/2010)
I think that is poem is talking about someone being in prison and wanting to to live then wanting to die.
4. I single rose lying dead in a field
It lies there lifeless nothing it can feel.
Once a thing of beauty but a thing of beauty no more
Causing pain to those close to it somewhat like myself
Now it lies forgotten, lying in that field.(By christopher humphrey, 1/1/2010)
This poem is comparing their selve to a rose. How this think was once there but now it is not. Just like we will be on day done.
5. There shall be no more of me
No more of my presents
No more of my face
I will be gone FOREVER
U will regret what you have said
What you have done
OR what you didn't do
& if I shall die 2day don't blame yourself
Simply blame the people who put me down
My shield is getting weaker & weaker each day
My pain is getting worse
My attempts & thoughts are all for a reason
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When I die I will soon go to hell (OR heaven if god believes in me)
Sometimes I wonder my fate for when I'm gone
Will people care ?
Will people even remember me ?
Will they be sad?--or will they even cry ?
Unanswered questions is all I have
I will die a painful death
& no one will care
I will be watching from above or maybe haunting you from below
That is what I think will happen
IF....I.....DIE.....(By Shai Murphy, 7/13/2010)
This poem is getting at the idea that if they die people will have to tell with it. That it is going to be them that has to deal with the fact that they didn't do or say the things that they want to say to her.
6. I can't say these words just yet.
I know it shouldn't be hard, but there is just too much regret.
I said them once before.
But back in the day, I was hurt once more...
He left me, with the ring on my finger.
He hurt me, and yet my heart still lingered.
I said those deathly words once before.
And got hurt more and more.
To say that in which could not be.
I know I promise I won't regret thee.
You say you love me.
But I can't help be see your need to be free.
Your need to rome, your need to live.
I see this and so I want to give.
But you refuse to let me go.
You say I am just scared, I only act to show.
So I say this one last time.
These words that should be a crime.
My dearest heart.
The one that brought me back start.
I Love You, with every breath,
And every beat in my chest. (By Elizabeth Cromer, 3/10/2010)
This poem is talking about losing someone. About the fact that they left her and she didn't even know it was coming. And that she still can't say that he is gone.
7. Alone,
Hoping and praying for life,
Looking for life,
I am born!
But?
Born to die,
In my world all alone,
Hoping and praying for death,
I am dead!
Dead!
But free.(By Eamon J Healy, 10/4/2010)
I feel like this poem is getting the fact that we are dying to live when in the end we live so that we can die. And that whwn we are dead we are free.
8. Shhh...no need to cry
I'm dead, I can't die
It's already too late
My soul is now gone
I'll miss what I never had
I'll miss my never existing dad
I'll miss my tears
I'll miss the loneliness
I'll miss the life filled with misery
The life that only brought me a broken destiny
I'll miss it all...close my coffin door, for I have to go...nice knowing this fucked up world...but I now have to go......BYE!!
This is a cool poem because it written as if the person is dead what they will be saying as they are dead. Like what if you can still think when you dead you can't do everything else would people still be scared of dead?
9. I will try to pay this debt
but debt payment isn't like perfume my sweet
It will not mask the stench of treachery that has become your burden... will it...?
This remorse has gnawed at my conscience for so long
That what heart I ever had...
Has been eaten away
I feel empty
I feel alone
I'm no one
I have nothing
Yet you expect me to be happy- for you
And for your own benefit
But what bout me?
You never cared anyway did you
You never thought I was worth it...
I want to be repentant for what I did
There is no peace
Without repentance
Do you understand?
Do you want to?
Will you ever?
You have too much pride to be contrite
That's the problem
Oh I know my flaws
I know them well
But does this mean I can fix them?
No
It does not
Too late
It is for me
I am too late
To be saved
So ill drown in you hatred
And you love
You life
And wish forever more
I had not been... xo (By Katie murphy)
Once again death is being talked about as the beginning. As if one you die you are a different person or like you can start things all over.
10. Your spirit flows through the room
I feel the bass of your heart
Your eyes seep into my soul
As I sit and weep
Vines sweetly bind my wrists
To the bed we called home
All your love pours through my bones
As I scream out pain
Swirls of passion fill the room
Music flows as wind through air
Pain is not so near at all
As I get intombed by you(By Tara Takemoto)
Can we really still feel someone after they die. Or is that the only way that we can cope with the fact that someone die.
11. People say you get flashbacks when you die,
some say in the clouds your soul will fly.
Some say you couldn't breathe,
I say you will always bleed.
There will be no sunrise,
everyone will pay such a price.
There is only eternal darkness,
the end to all your passions and lust.
You smell sweet decay, endless fall and white roses,
We feel your last breath entering our noses.
There is no turning back,
there is no end of this taste of death.
So sleep, in your only memory,
let this chapter be an end to your story.
There is no happy ending,
they are only for the weakling.
We all loved you, worship you, adored you,
but now we must let death become you.
It is time to let you go,
and drive pain away from your road.
Goodbye, flightless bird
Let no joyful sounds be heard.
It's our time to die,
when we will forever fly
"But now we must let death become you"this is powerful. To say that is saying that you are no longer you. You become like every other die person and just become death.
12. Can you see me watching you
From the shadows of your mind?
Can you hear me sigh my deepest sigh
On the whispering rain?
Can you hear your bell tolling
Ringing out your last refrain?
Your sands have fallen through the waistband,
I am here to take you home.
Close your eyes and sleep my child,
Your candle no longer shines,
The pain you had has all gone now,
Feel my peace engulf your mind,
Place yourself inside your soul
And fly with me on the wind,
For I am here to take you home,
Just reach out and hold my hand.
Misery no longer rules
With arduous exhaustive toil,
It's time to leave the netherworld,
It's time to answer to my call,
I'll take you to another realm
Where peace and beauty reign as one,
Just follow me, my earthly child,
I am here to take you home.
13. This feeling I have ,
Will it ever go away ?
These thoughts I have,
Will they ever go away ?
Will I ever be able to talk about it .
Or will I just keep it to myself ?
Will my heart ever heal,
Or will I just have to deal?
My mind says one day I will be ready,
Ready to live on.
My heart says how,
How can I live on with out you.
My soul says not to cry,
Because your safe and being cared for.
But I still cry .
Why ,why did it have to be you?
You were my world ,my everything.
Why did you have to go?
I miss you so much.
Why did you have to suffer?
Why did they have to take you?
If I could hold you one more time,
Kiss you just one last time,
Just hold your little hand to let you know I'll always be with you.
If only you were here.
If only you knew how much I love and miss you.
You are forever in my heart.
This is talking about the paian one feels after they lose someone. And just really trying to understand what is going on.
14. I am trapped in this eternal slumber,
Falling into blackness so dark, so deep;
My heart is confined and encumbered
As my soul remains in immortal sleep.
Lies shroud my eyes so that I cannot see,
Deception holds my tongue -unable to speak-
Manipulation binds my hands behind me;
I fade into the abyss of the helpless and weak.
God, the pain just continues to linger within;
I don't know how to escape or what I should do.
Love always brings to me the gift of oblivion
And, for me, it has not yet been found to be true.
Endless suffering and torture consume my life
And yet I slip into shadows that numb my soul.
I just stare at the black but gleaming knife:
"Will tearing myself apart make me whole?"
I scream into the night until my lungs bleed dry
But I stand here watching my frail prayers collapse.
My cries are all in vain, falling from the black sky;
I realize that the emotions I feel are only hidden traps.
So I am trapped in this eternal slumber,
Falling into blackness so dark, so deep;
My heart is confined and encumbered
As my soul remains in immortal sleep,
But as I lie here, slowly wasting away,
My heart silently continues hoping.
It whispers only one thing as it prays
As it waits for myself to find awakening:
"Rising from the ashes of our wake, I hold these shadows close around me. Maybe darkness will make the pain fade away and bring comfort to my empty and yearning soul..."
15. Mom I just blew all my thoughts away. And in the end I didn't even mind. The roses are outside and it's snowing, while you all cry over my grave. Mom, I couldn't take it anymore, the dark was calling me.
If you hear a voice Mom, don't you quit trying to listen. Be who you are and forget about me. I'll never loose your picture perfect smile Mom, but I won't miss it either.
On a winter's night a cool breeze blew from you to me and I knew what I had to do. It was obvious that you wanted me gone, you didn't care at all. There was no where to turn Mom, the silence filled my head.
The night's grasp had a hold of me, and he wasn't letting go. Mom I know the true color of crying, all these things I didn't have to know, but learned along the way.
That night I sat at the weeping willow and thought about the wind. It Whipered a sweet melody to me mom, it told me the choice was right.
So I cocked the gun, pulled off my hat and pulled it to my brain. BOOM. All the lost days and nights that flew by me without recollection are now flashing in my eyes.
Mom I'm forever lost, and I learned the deepest hurt. The purple midnight was smooth as I fell to the snow covered ground. At this time all my unspoken words, Mom, where screamed.
Thump, thump..thump...thump.....thump........thump
My last heartbeat struck as it became nothing of importance.
I learned the truth, lies, sadness, pros, cons, problems and situations of life, Mom....
And I know you won't even cry when you read this.
From reading these poems I don't really have a favorite, they all mad me thing and ask what we really think about death. Like do we really feel that once we die we become death. Are we no longer the person we was before we did? Or that fact that we are all scared to die because we can't move or think. But what if we could think but couldn't move woul we still be scared? With out these answers we live life trying to make sure evern moment least to really in some ways killer us faster.
But my favortie lines are "But now we must let death become you, "Life is but a hideous dream, A mask on which the sun beams.Death is our only reality". I just feel like they really show we all think about death. Life we get this dream to have it pulled away from us to die and be there for ever and become nothing.
But as a matter of fact my favorite poem is the rose poem.
"I single rose lying dead in a field
It lies there lifeless nothing it can feel.
Once a thing of beauty but a thing of beauty no more
Causing pain to those close to it somewhat like myself
Now it lies forgotten, lying in that field." I like it becaus people always compares them self to a rose. As if we all these beautiful think that everyone wants and needs. But we are not, so why a rose you not anything esle. It just makes me wonder.
extra-credit-opportunities 1
COTD2. Watch "Harold & Maude" and write up 3-5 paragraphs analyzing the significance of the theme of funerals and death in the lives, practices, and beliefs of the three main characters.
Maude:Is an old lady goes to funerals of people she does not know as well and that is how she meet Harold. And as a old lady she does things as if she was young. She steals and has fun as if there is no punishment in the world that could affect her. Just like Harold she looks as death as something entertaining. She talks more then Harold. Loves flowers because they grow die and become something new and different. She very honest and lives life to the fullest. "Earth is my body and my head is in the stars". "Everyone has a right to make an ass out of them selves. Don't let people judge you". She takes pills that is going to kill her self. This shows that she lived her life and that she is okay with dying.
Harold: Is a young man, and he looks at death as a joke at the beginning he fakes to hang his self. When his mother walks and sees him she just look at him and keep doing what she has to do and walk out the room. Through out the movie he does different death pranks on his mother. He also goes to funerals just to go just to be around people as they cry. From the pranks of death that he does in front of his mother makes it seems as if he wants her attention and she not giving it to him. He also goes to a psychologist and said that he has done more then 50 fake deaths. Harold is more quiet then Maude. "Should not get attach to anything"." I want to be a daisy because they are all the same". Before meeting Maude lived life forcing on death, but after meeting Maude he tries to live life to the fullest. He has not live he has die a few times. After the cops told his mother that he was dead and she fell out. And from there he saw that he like being dead. Does anything to not so people do not want to talk to him besides Maude. He threw his car off a cliff showing that he left his pass behind and that he is moving on in life.
Harold mother: The mother just talks. She does not really listen to people she just talk. She doesn't even pay attention to her son from the smallest to the biggest things. Controlling and things that what she thinks is the best and knows what people do with their life. Once again because she does not believe in what Harold is doing she tries to make him change but making go the the army.
Harold and Maude don't really think about what they do, they just do. They go where every the wind takes them and see things that most people don't. They are the same but yet they are different. They see the same thing but read it differently. " If you want to be you be you because there are a million things to be and you know there are......"
Maude:Is an old lady goes to funerals of people she does not know as well and that is how she meet Harold. And as a old lady she does things as if she was young. She steals and has fun as if there is no punishment in the world that could affect her. Just like Harold she looks as death as something entertaining. She talks more then Harold. Loves flowers because they grow die and become something new and different. She very honest and lives life to the fullest. "Earth is my body and my head is in the stars". "Everyone has a right to make an ass out of them selves. Don't let people judge you". She takes pills that is going to kill her self. This shows that she lived her life and that she is okay with dying.
Harold: Is a young man, and he looks at death as a joke at the beginning he fakes to hang his self. When his mother walks and sees him she just look at him and keep doing what she has to do and walk out the room. Through out the movie he does different death pranks on his mother. He also goes to funerals just to go just to be around people as they cry. From the pranks of death that he does in front of his mother makes it seems as if he wants her attention and she not giving it to him. He also goes to a psychologist and said that he has done more then 50 fake deaths. Harold is more quiet then Maude. "Should not get attach to anything"." I want to be a daisy because they are all the same". Before meeting Maude lived life forcing on death, but after meeting Maude he tries to live life to the fullest. He has not live he has die a few times. After the cops told his mother that he was dead and she fell out. And from there he saw that he like being dead. Does anything to not so people do not want to talk to him besides Maude. He threw his car off a cliff showing that he left his pass behind and that he is moving on in life.
Harold mother: The mother just talks. She does not really listen to people she just talk. She doesn't even pay attention to her son from the smallest to the biggest things. Controlling and things that what she thinks is the best and knows what people do with their life. Once again because she does not believe in what Harold is doing she tries to make him change but making go the the army.
Harold and Maude don't really think about what they do, they just do. They go where every the wind takes them and see things that most people don't. They are the same but yet they are different. They see the same thing but read it differently. " If you want to be you be you because there are a million things to be and you know there are......"
Sunday, May 15, 2011
HW 55 - Culminating Project - Care of the Dead
Like all my other projects I talked to my family about what they knew and what they thought about the whole thing that we are learning in class. And like I said before it is better to ask 5 people that I know to get true answers then to ask 10 people that i don't know and that would feel weird about talking to me about dead. Like when we had to the homework about going to a funeral home or something and ask questions. When I did that the lady looked at me as if I had two head told me I had to go to head quarters, then wanted me to the door and locked me out. Where as when I went downtown they answered my question and did even care why I was asking these question. But not everyone is like that , some people think that that is rude to ask or think that you are crazy to think about that which in a way I think that they are right.
When talking to my family most of them never even thought about how they wanted to be treated after they were die nor did they know the different ways that they could be treated. They just thought that you died and then you are put in the ground. Besides my mother she always knew how she want to die and how she want to be taken care of. She wants people to be happy and a party not a funeral which I agree with her. Since we are funny loving people we want people to have fun with the ending of our life. But at the same time I see why some of my family members don't really care. They are dead. It is not like they are going to be hurt from the fact that you did not cry of them or give them a home funeral.
It is like we get nothing else we want in life why did the way we want to be taken care of after they die be different. Like my grandma she does not care what happens. Where as my sister never thought about it and thinks that it is weird to think about it know. And my aunt never thought about it but is starting to think about it now.
And the funny part is that I thought since me and my mom had different views on religion, I thought that we would be care in different ways. But I think that it doesn't only have to do with just the religion we believe in but as well as the type of person we are. Because we both are people that love to make other people laugh we want our funeral to be fun and more of a party. And at first I didn't really care what happens after I die and how my family decide to do I just don't want them to have to spend so much money on me. Because if I didn't know that they loved me when I died then I am not going to know after I die when the spent all that money on me.
When talking to my family most of them never even thought about how they wanted to be treated after they were die nor did they know the different ways that they could be treated. They just thought that you died and then you are put in the ground. Besides my mother she always knew how she want to die and how she want to be taken care of. She wants people to be happy and a party not a funeral which I agree with her. Since we are funny loving people we want people to have fun with the ending of our life. But at the same time I see why some of my family members don't really care. They are dead. It is not like they are going to be hurt from the fact that you did not cry of them or give them a home funeral.
It is like we get nothing else we want in life why did the way we want to be taken care of after they die be different. Like my grandma she does not care what happens. Where as my sister never thought about it and thinks that it is weird to think about it know. And my aunt never thought about it but is starting to think about it now.
And the funny part is that I thought since me and my mom had different views on religion, I thought that we would be care in different ways. But I think that it doesn't only have to do with just the religion we believe in but as well as the type of person we are. Because we both are people that love to make other people laugh we want our funeral to be fun and more of a party. And at first I didn't really care what happens after I die and how my family decide to do I just don't want them to have to spend so much money on me. Because if I didn't know that they loved me when I died then I am not going to know after I die when the spent all that money on me.
Tuesday, May 10, 2011
HW 54 - Independent Research B
1. According to some rates of self-reported atheism are the highest in Western nations, although also to quite big in United States (4%), Italy (7%), Spain (11%), Great Britain (17%), Germany (20%), and France (32%).
2. Antony Garrard Newton Flew was a British philosopher, he was a strong advocate of atheism. He criticised the idea of life after death, the free will defence to the problem of evil, and the meaningfulness of the concept of God. But in 2004 he stating that he now believes in God.
3. Michael Martin specializes in the philosophy of religion, though he has also worked on the philosophies of science, law, and social science.
The reason that I am an atheist is because there is no real proof of god or jesus. Nor id there proof of heaven or hell. I feel that there maybe something out there but we will nit know until we die and then even then if we die how could we know you are in heaven or hell don't you brain stop working? I also think that it is hard being someone who doesn't believe in god because you can't just tell anyone and everyone. Because when you tell them they look at you like you crazy. I just think that as and atheist after a while you start to change you idea to what other people think so that you are not looked at in a different way.
2. Antony Garrard Newton Flew was a British philosopher, he was a strong advocate of atheism. He criticised the idea of life after death, the free will defence to the problem of evil, and the meaningfulness of the concept of God. But in 2004 he stating that he now believes in God.
3. Michael Martin specializes in the philosophy of religion, though he has also worked on the philosophies of science, law, and social science.
The reason that I am an atheist is because there is no real proof of god or jesus. Nor id there proof of heaven or hell. I feel that there maybe something out there but we will nit know until we die and then even then if we die how could we know you are in heaven or hell don't you brain stop working? I also think that it is hard being someone who doesn't believe in god because you can't just tell anyone and everyone. Because when you tell them they look at you like you crazy. I just think that as and atheist after a while you start to change you idea to what other people think so that you are not looked at in a different way.
Monday, May 9, 2011
HW 53 - Independent Research A
From reading Daily Life in the Business of Death Scott Palmer grew up around death and didn't find it weird or scary, and from just reading that part I still don't understand why. And maybe if I did grow up with death all around me I would probably thing it is normal but how could I possible thing it is normal and ok and scary when I have no answers. Even from watching the movie in class today that lady "that seeing your love ones and having them around to get use to the idea that they are gone helps you be les scared." But how when they can't come back and tell you what death is like. And I think that that is where my fear comes from. The idea that I don't know what to think I have to proof that there is an heaven or a hell, that i am turned into someone else or that i just lay there and forget every beautiful and heart breaking moments.
From interviewing someone that works in a funeral home I got the same I am not scared of dying thing and when I asked why not they said because they can just look at the person and know that everything is ok. That there is a beauty in it all. Another thing that I thought was something that I thought was pretty cool was that the man said working at a funeral home he is more willing to live life and do what he can live for today and not tomorrow. And I feel like i say that but don't really do it.
From interviewing someone that works in a funeral home I got the same I am not scared of dying thing and when I asked why not they said because they can just look at the person and know that everything is ok. That there is a beauty in it all. Another thing that I thought was something that I thought was pretty cool was that the man said working at a funeral home he is more willing to live life and do what he can live for today and not tomorrow. And I feel like i say that but don't really do it.
Saturday, May 7, 2011
HW 52 - Third Third of the COTD Book
I the last third of the book the idea of a plain pin box, backyard burial, the natural cemetery. In the plian pine box chapter the main idea of it was talking about being buried in a casket made from pine. In the backyard burial chapter is about being buried in your own backayard. And last chapter it is talking about being buried in a cemetery.
"I always did like the idea of a plain wooden casket"
"The casket is simply a vessel for another vessel that we're done with. There's no reason to get carried away"
"It doesn't take me two minutes to walk from the house to the little private cememery where Shayn is buried. I know her body is inert matter; it's not her. But her memory is there, my memory for her is there, and that is the last place we saw each other. For me, it's a comfort to have her close by"
"It was fall, leaves were all over the ground, so all heard was the sound of our feet feet crunching the leaves as we walked"
As i read these last chapters I startred to really think more about how I want to be take care of when I die. I thought about cremation but if not cremation then I want to be buried in a plain pine box, because I don't understand why someone should spend that much money on me when I am died, when they can spend it on something more important in life. But if I was buried I would love to be buried in my own family backyard. I just feel like no one should have to be around them but me as thay talk to me and feel connected to me like they use to.
"I always did like the idea of a plain wooden casket"
"The casket is simply a vessel for another vessel that we're done with. There's no reason to get carried away"
"It doesn't take me two minutes to walk from the house to the little private cememery where Shayn is buried. I know her body is inert matter; it's not her. But her memory is there, my memory for her is there, and that is the last place we saw each other. For me, it's a comfort to have her close by"
"It was fall, leaves were all over the ground, so all heard was the sound of our feet feet crunching the leaves as we walked"
As i read these last chapters I startred to really think more about how I want to be take care of when I die. I thought about cremation but if not cremation then I want to be buried in a plain pine box, because I don't understand why someone should spend that much money on me when I am died, when they can spend it on something more important in life. But if I was buried I would love to be buried in my own family backyard. I just feel like no one should have to be around them but me as thay talk to me and feel connected to me like they use to.
Tuesday, May 3, 2011
HW 51 - Second Third of COTD Book
In the beginning of the book it was more about the death of Jeny and how thr family dealed with the fact that ahe was dead, as well as the cost of everything. But most of all it was about modern burial. In the second third of the book it beginnings to start talking about about the natural burials. Like cremation, burial at sea, memorial reef, and home funeral. Cost of all this things were talked about. As well as other stories of people taht died and what was done with their body.
it's hard to celebrate someone's life at a service when his dead body is sitting there in the room. It's the pink elephant you just can't get around
you're on this wide open sea on a beautiful day. bird are flying overhead, sometimes porpoise are swimming alongside the boat.... it's just a totally different atmosphere than you have at a land-based funeral.
we'd had her at home with hospice in the last month of her life, and it just seemed fitting that we'd continue to take care of her after death with the same love and attention we'd shown her in life, not hand her off to some stanger.
it's hard to celebrate someone's life at a service when his dead body is sitting there in the room. It's the pink elephant you just can't get around
you're on this wide open sea on a beautiful day. bird are flying overhead, sometimes porpoise are swimming alongside the boat.... it's just a totally different atmosphere than you have at a land-based funeral.
we'd had her at home with hospice in the last month of her life, and it just seemed fitting that we'd continue to take care of her after death with the same love and attention we'd shown her in life, not hand her off to some stanger.
Sunday, May 1, 2011
HW 49 - Comments on Best of Your Break HW
Hey ally,
I like how you posted it up to show that it is something you really talked to your friends about. I think that the comments that they made showed that some of them know how they feel about death and other don't really know how to feel. And I think that the questions that you asked are some questions that had me thinking as I was reading your blog. Good job keep it up
Hey ally,
I think that you found something in this book that I did not see or even thought about. Which know that I think abouty it I think it does "explores the alternative to the dominant social pratice of a funeral and how they prep the body". But I think is that you can give more of what the book is about in more words.
Hey brandon,
I like how you thought about the people that deal with death everyday. I never thought about how they deal with these and how these could changes the way that they think about life. I think that you are doing a really good job.
Hey ariel,
I love how you talked about the way that you thought about it , how everyone around you thinks about and how philosophy looks at it. I feel that you had a lot of important things to say and point out. Like how "Luckily up to date i haven't had a close family member pass away"
you could still imagine how other people would feel and feel with death.
Comment on my blog
This interviewed seemed short and sweet , is it because speaking about death with them was odd? Or is it because they just never thought about it. How did you feel about asking your mother and your sister how they wanted theyre funeral to be? It's kind of a way for you to know how to deal with them when they pass. Was that hard for you to come to terms with?
Bryanna, i like how you always post yuou questions and answers from your interview. I have to say i stole your idea for my blog. Its seems like both your sister and mother have never really thought about how their funeral. Thank you for posting on my blog.
I like how you posted it up to show that it is something you really talked to your friends about. I think that the comments that they made showed that some of them know how they feel about death and other don't really know how to feel. And I think that the questions that you asked are some questions that had me thinking as I was reading your blog. Good job keep it up
Hey ally,
I think that you found something in this book that I did not see or even thought about. Which know that I think abouty it I think it does "explores the alternative to the dominant social pratice of a funeral and how they prep the body". But I think is that you can give more of what the book is about in more words.
Hey brandon,
I like how you thought about the people that deal with death everyday. I never thought about how they deal with these and how these could changes the way that they think about life. I think that you are doing a really good job.
Hey ariel,
I love how you talked about the way that you thought about it , how everyone around you thinks about and how philosophy looks at it. I feel that you had a lot of important things to say and point out. Like how "Luckily up to date i haven't had a close family member pass away"
you could still imagine how other people would feel and feel with death.
Comment on my blog
This interviewed seemed short and sweet , is it because speaking about death with them was odd? Or is it because they just never thought about it. How did you feel about asking your mother and your sister how they wanted theyre funeral to be? It's kind of a way for you to know how to deal with them when they pass. Was that hard for you to come to terms with?
Bryanna, i like how you always post yuou questions and answers from your interview. I have to say i stole your idea for my blog. Its seems like both your sister and mother have never really thought about how their funeral. Thank you for posting on my blog.
Saturday, April 30, 2011
HW 50 - First Third of Care-of-the-Dead Book Post
In the first third of the book the Johnson's find out that their daughter has died. So they are at the funeral home talking to Tom Fielding to figure out what they are going to do with their daughter. What they come to see is that funerals are a lot of moeny. And they are seeing that they don't have enough money to do what they have to for her but they feel that this by giving her the best funeral that is their last way to show her that they care about her.What also going on in this first thrid is what does down after the funeral and stuff. How you are still payign for the funeral and still dealing wit the fact that they have lost a child.
"Show me the manner in which a nation cares for its deead, and I will measure with mathematical exactness the tender mercies of its people, their respect for the laws of the land and their loyalty to high ideals. "
"young parents tend to want to pamper their children right up to the end- as a sigh of love, out of a sense of guilt- regardless of what they cab afford."
I find it interesting that I had my faimly whay they think it cost so much and they could not answer me. And even though they didn't really say why it is much I think that most people don't complain about the cost because of the fact that this is the last way to show this person that you care. Even though they don't know that I think people make them selves believe that so that they can move on in life and not feel guilty. But that part really mad me think and wonder the real answer to why it cost so much and why most people don't seem to care about how much it cost.
"Show me the manner in which a nation cares for its deead, and I will measure with mathematical exactness the tender mercies of its people, their respect for the laws of the land and their loyalty to high ideals. "
"young parents tend to want to pamper their children right up to the end- as a sigh of love, out of a sense of guilt- regardless of what they cab afford."
I find it interesting that I had my faimly whay they think it cost so much and they could not answer me. And even though they didn't really say why it is much I think that most people don't complain about the cost because of the fact that this is the last way to show this person that you care. Even though they don't know that I think people make them selves believe that so that they can move on in life and not feel guilty. But that part really mad me think and wonder the real answer to why it cost so much and why most people don't seem to care about how much it cost.
Wednesday, April 27, 2011
HW 48 - Family Perspectives on the Care of the Dead
1.Do you believe in life after death?
2.Do you ever think about what you want people to do when you die?
3.How do you want your funeral?
4.What are yor general thoughts about the dead?
5. Why do you think that it cost so much to give someone a funeral?
My sister
1. I don't know but I hope so.
2. I never really thought about it .
3. I never thought about it I just thought that it was be like any other funeral.
4. My thoughts are that they are dead and that you think about them for a while but then you move on with life. But then it depend on how close the person was to you.
5. I don't know.
My mother
1. Yea I do. I just really hope
2. I want then to take care of my family.
3.I don't know never thought about it. I want people to not cry to be happy and remember asa happy person.
4. I always wondered why people had to die and that it is sad.
5. I HAVE NO IDEA, BUT I WISH THAT I DID.
2.Do you ever think about what you want people to do when you die?
3.How do you want your funeral?
4.What are yor general thoughts about the dead?
5. Why do you think that it cost so much to give someone a funeral?
My sister
1. I don't know but I hope so.
2. I never really thought about it .
3. I never thought about it I just thought that it was be like any other funeral.
4. My thoughts are that they are dead and that you think about them for a while but then you move on with life. But then it depend on how close the person was to you.
5. I don't know.
My mother
1. Yea I do. I just really hope
2. I want then to take care of my family.
3.I don't know never thought about it. I want people to not cry to be happy and remember asa happy person.
4. I always wondered why people had to die and that it is sad.
5. I HAVE NO IDEA, BUT I WISH THAT I DID.
Sunday, April 17, 2011
HW 46 - Initial Thoughts on the Care of the Dead
Caring about the dead is doing things that we wouyld do if they were still alive. To still make them food, bring them cards and flowers. Caring about the dead and remembering them for the person that they are and that the fact that they were people and that they are gone. I feel that care about the dead is not to just deal and move on but to deal until you die. And to make sure that things go on in the way that would have wanted it to.
I think that we are going to talk about how we are the only culture that doesn't do that. And that we are going to see what those cultures do and how we can learn how to do or why we don't do it. So think I think it is just going to be going deeper in dead.
I think that we are going to talk about how we are the only culture that doesn't do that. And that we are going to see what those cultures do and how we can learn how to do or why we don't do it. So think I think it is just going to be going deeper in dead.
Tuesday, April 12, 2011
Hw # 44
Devin
I really like your paper. You talked about this in a way that made me understand it.You did a lot work and research. I feel as when reading the book they didn't talk about it as much as they could have. I also feel that you questioned a lot of things that other people would not have thought about.
Sarah
From you blog I started to think about. When people talk about birth it is just about home vs hospitals or dotcor vs midwife. But people don't think about people who don't have a choice, and I think that by doing work on this shows how you a thinking deeper.
As for you writing you talking about things that I would not have thought about. Like the fact that they handcuff the women while giving birth which is not giving them to chance to move around and help have the baby. I think that you did a really
good job.
Luz
I love how thought about how the love of a baby could you work harder in life to help take care of it. And as a 17 th year old to want to do that shows how you care about others. I think that would cool if you watch how he is taught and how you will teach you kids.
I really like your paper. You talked about this in a way that made me understand it.You did a lot work and research. I feel as when reading the book they didn't talk about it as much as they could have. I also feel that you questioned a lot of things that other people would not have thought about.
Sarah
From you blog I started to think about. When people talk about birth it is just about home vs hospitals or dotcor vs midwife. But people don't think about people who don't have a choice, and I think that by doing work on this shows how you a thinking deeper.
As for you writing you talking about things that I would not have thought about. Like the fact that they handcuff the women while giving birth which is not giving them to chance to move around and help have the baby. I think that you did a really
good job.
Luz
I love how thought about how the love of a baby could you work harder in life to help take care of it. And as a 17 th year old to want to do that shows how you care about others. I think that would cool if you watch how he is taught and how you will teach you kids.
Monday, April 4, 2011
HW 42 - Pregnancy & birth culminating project
I thought I would start of by asking my family/ people that I know and ask them what they know about birth and what they went trough. But must of all I am going to see what they think about doctors and midwives. Afters asking them what they know about everything I am going to tell about eveything that I know of and see how their thought about everything. I decided to do this becuase I think that it is impornt for women to know about away to have their babies in a safe and comfortable way. So here are the questions that I ask them.
1.Did you have a doctor or a midwife?
2.What did you choose to go with this person?
3.How was your birth?
4.What do you know about midwives?
5.What do you know about doctors?
6.If you pregnant now would you want a doctor or a midwife and why?
7. Did you have a home birth or hospital?
Person 1:
1. Midwife
2. I wanted a midwife because it was somthing different for me.
3. Birth was excellent. I had no labor pains, gave birth the way that I wanted to.
4. I don't know that much about them
5. I don't know that much about them.
6. I would choose a midwife again because of how great it went the first time. But this time I would think about having it home.
7. Hospital
Person 2:
1. Doctor
2. I choose a doctor because I trusted her and I felt that she was going to listen to me and help me have the birth that I wanted to have.
3. My birth process was great. I had boy like I wanted and I had a naturally birth. No durgs and no c-section. And most of all they didn't rush me to have my baby.
4. I know that they are compassoniate, warm, and gentle.
5. I know that some are great it just depends on where you go and who you have as a doctor.
6. If I was pregnant now I would research and pick a midwife, because it would be something new and I heard that they are really great.
7. Hospital
Person 3:
1. I had a midwife. Her name was Sonia, I had her for both my pregancies.
2. I didn't choose her, my health plan appointed me to her.
3. Giving birth for me was scary both times, because even though they were both vaginal they were a little different, The first one I went to the hospital 3 times before they actually admitted me. My water didn't break so they stuck theis long plastic stick with a hook at the end of the tip to break it. Then they told me to do squats because he was not turned the arounfd fully. The second pregancy , my water broke. He came much easier.
4. Midwives are childhood assistance.
5. Doctors get paid a lot of money.
6. Honestly I really don't know the difference in a doctor and a midwife. I never gave it to much thought. But my midwife did eeverything fro me besides push the baby out.
7.Hospital
Person 4:
1. A doctor
2. North Central didn't have midwives
3. First birth had to have a c-section and alot of medication "she was losing oxygen", second birth was natural and painful>
4. Midwives are patience, have more knowledge on holistic treatmeant for birth
5. They are human being like us. They just want to school to be a doctor
6. I would want a midwife.
7.Hospital
Person 5:
1.Doctor
2.Because doctors know what they are doing.
3.I had 8 kids so I can't really rememeber but I just know that it was painful.
4. I don't know anything about midwives
5. Doctors are good at what they do and know how to fix things when it becomes dangerous.
6. A doctor because that is their job.
7. Hospital
After talking to them I came to see that most of them would go with doctors. And that they go with doctors because don't really know that much about midwives, nor do they know alot about doctors. When comes down to it how can you choose something different if you don't even know the problems with the way that you doing it. So I decided that with all the information that I got in class I would tell them and see how their thoughts changed. So in my opinion midwives are better so I tried to explain to them why they should have a midwife.
So after talking to the my friends/ faomily all but one said that they would go with a midwife. My sister did really know much about midwives but did have my niece with a midwife. She had heard a lot of good things about them and thought that since this was a her first way not try something that everyone does not. But I think that she really went with it is because of my mother. When told to my mom about this class she said that she always want a midwife but they were not alot around both times she was pregnant. But As my mom got older she became more spiritual, and she beileves that the body will take acre of itself. She even has tea that you can drink to help with the body, and as a matter of fact she had gave my sister one of these tea's that stopped my sister form having labor pains.
When talking to my grandma she still thinks that you should leave it up to a doctor. She feels that this is their job they went to school for it and that midwives are not on the same level as a doctor. Even after telling her that midwives have to go to school, that doctors rush your labor so that they can end up giving you a c-section she still says that people should have a baby with doctors. And that having you baby at home is not a smart idea.
Even though my cousin is already pregnant And i think it is to late to change over to a midwife I talked to her about to let her know that she does not have to have her baby the way that society thinks you should. That you can have you baby in a safe way for you and the baby. That you can be comfortable. So at the end of all this I do think that I could have told more people about birth but I feel that it ios better to talk to 5 people and really get them to listen them to 10 and have then only geth half of what I am saying.
1.Did you have a doctor or a midwife?
2.What did you choose to go with this person?
3.How was your birth?
4.What do you know about midwives?
5.What do you know about doctors?
6.If you pregnant now would you want a doctor or a midwife and why?
7. Did you have a home birth or hospital?
Person 1:
1. Midwife
2. I wanted a midwife because it was somthing different for me.
3. Birth was excellent. I had no labor pains, gave birth the way that I wanted to.
4. I don't know that much about them
5. I don't know that much about them.
6. I would choose a midwife again because of how great it went the first time. But this time I would think about having it home.
7. Hospital
Person 2:
1. Doctor
2. I choose a doctor because I trusted her and I felt that she was going to listen to me and help me have the birth that I wanted to have.
3. My birth process was great. I had boy like I wanted and I had a naturally birth. No durgs and no c-section. And most of all they didn't rush me to have my baby.
4. I know that they are compassoniate, warm, and gentle.
5. I know that some are great it just depends on where you go and who you have as a doctor.
6. If I was pregnant now I would research and pick a midwife, because it would be something new and I heard that they are really great.
7. Hospital
Person 3:
1. I had a midwife. Her name was Sonia, I had her for both my pregancies.
2. I didn't choose her, my health plan appointed me to her.
3. Giving birth for me was scary both times, because even though they were both vaginal they were a little different, The first one I went to the hospital 3 times before they actually admitted me. My water didn't break so they stuck theis long plastic stick with a hook at the end of the tip to break it. Then they told me to do squats because he was not turned the arounfd fully. The second pregancy , my water broke. He came much easier.
4. Midwives are childhood assistance.
5. Doctors get paid a lot of money.
6. Honestly I really don't know the difference in a doctor and a midwife. I never gave it to much thought. But my midwife did eeverything fro me besides push the baby out.
7.Hospital
Person 4:
1. A doctor
2. North Central didn't have midwives
3. First birth had to have a c-section and alot of medication "she was losing oxygen", second birth was natural and painful>
4. Midwives are patience, have more knowledge on holistic treatmeant for birth
5. They are human being like us. They just want to school to be a doctor
6. I would want a midwife.
7.Hospital
Person 5:
1.Doctor
2.Because doctors know what they are doing.
3.I had 8 kids so I can't really rememeber but I just know that it was painful.
4. I don't know anything about midwives
5. Doctors are good at what they do and know how to fix things when it becomes dangerous.
6. A doctor because that is their job.
7. Hospital
After talking to them I came to see that most of them would go with doctors. And that they go with doctors because don't really know that much about midwives, nor do they know alot about doctors. When comes down to it how can you choose something different if you don't even know the problems with the way that you doing it. So I decided that with all the information that I got in class I would tell them and see how their thoughts changed. So in my opinion midwives are better so I tried to explain to them why they should have a midwife.
So after talking to the my friends/ faomily all but one said that they would go with a midwife. My sister did really know much about midwives but did have my niece with a midwife. She had heard a lot of good things about them and thought that since this was a her first way not try something that everyone does not. But I think that she really went with it is because of my mother. When told to my mom about this class she said that she always want a midwife but they were not alot around both times she was pregnant. But As my mom got older she became more spiritual, and she beileves that the body will take acre of itself. She even has tea that you can drink to help with the body, and as a matter of fact she had gave my sister one of these tea's that stopped my sister form having labor pains.
When talking to my grandma she still thinks that you should leave it up to a doctor. She feels that this is their job they went to school for it and that midwives are not on the same level as a doctor. Even after telling her that midwives have to go to school, that doctors rush your labor so that they can end up giving you a c-section she still says that people should have a baby with doctors. And that having you baby at home is not a smart idea.
Even though my cousin is already pregnant And i think it is to late to change over to a midwife I talked to her about to let her know that she does not have to have her baby the way that society thinks you should. That you can have you baby in a safe way for you and the baby. That you can be comfortable. So at the end of all this I do think that I could have told more people about birth but I feel that it ios better to talk to 5 people and really get them to listen them to 10 and have then only geth half of what I am saying.
Thursday, March 31, 2011
HW 41 - Independent Research
ACOG versus midwives arguments & power struggles
or
The first hour after birth
Acog vs midwifes
1.http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Midwifery
2.http://tmh.floonet.net/articles/witches.html
3.http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Obstetrics
4.http://www.babycenter.com/0_how-to-choose-an-obstetrician_1582.bc
5.http://www.kiwifamilies.co.nz/Topics/Pregnancy/Obstetricians.html
6.http://www.howtodothings.com/family-relationships/how-to-avoid-having-labor-induced
7.http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Caesarean_section
Write about doctors and how to pick a "good" on and the process that happens when you have birth with a doctor. Then write about midwives and how to pick a "good" one and the process of that. And then what seems to be a better a choice and what I think that women should do and why. And hand it out
The first hour after birth
I am going to ask all my family memebers and even try to ask people who are pregnant about what they thought was going to happen an hour after they have a baby and what was it like.
or
The first hour after birth
Acog vs midwifes
1.http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Midwifery
2.http://tmh.floonet.net/articles/witches.html
3.http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Obstetrics
4.http://www.babycenter.com/0_how-to-choose-an-obstetrician_1582.bc
5.http://www.kiwifamilies.co.nz/Topics/Pregnancy/Obstetricians.html
6.http://www.howtodothings.com/family-relationships/how-to-avoid-having-labor-induced
7.http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Caesarean_section
Write about doctors and how to pick a "good" on and the process that happens when you have birth with a doctor. Then write about midwives and how to pick a "good" one and the process of that. And then what seems to be a better a choice and what I think that women should do and why. And hand it out
The first hour after birth
I am going to ask all my family memebers and even try to ask people who are pregnant about what they thought was going to happen an hour after they have a baby and what was it like.
Monday, March 21, 2011
HW 39 - Insights from Book - Part 2
After having read the second hundred pages (roughly) of your book please address the following points either in separate paragraphs or as Q & A;
1. After MLA citation list several topics/areas the book has taught you about that the "Business of Being Born" either ignored or treated differently or in less depth.
I found that giving birth to the doctor is not about how the women feel r getting the baby out alive. It is about getting it out so that they can go on in their life and do hat they have to do to get money. And that doctors are not really need to be ther becuase women body know what do to .
2. The major insight the book tries to communicate in the second 100 pages (1-3 sentences) and your response to that insight (2-4 sentences).
The book really trys to sellthat mid wifes are better then doctors. And that women can really have the birth that they want to have, As weel as have birth with out much pain. I think that this is good because when I look back my sister had a mid wife and had a good labor. She didn't feel anything and she was calm and had my niece they way she wanted to.
3. List 5 interesting aspects of pregnancy and birth discussed in the second hundred pages that you agree deserve wider attention (include page number).
1. where c-section came from(pg 107)
2. that fathers was not always allowed in the room(pg 127)
3.that men would study women having babies (pg 139)
4.the tools that they use(pg 161)
5. the chair they have to help them give birth(pg 183)
4. Independently research one crucial factual claim by the author in the second hundred pages and assess the validity of the author's use of that evidence.
1. After MLA citation list several topics/areas the book has taught you about that the "Business of Being Born" either ignored or treated differently or in less depth.
I found that giving birth to the doctor is not about how the women feel r getting the baby out alive. It is about getting it out so that they can go on in their life and do hat they have to do to get money. And that doctors are not really need to be ther becuase women body know what do to .
2. The major insight the book tries to communicate in the second 100 pages (1-3 sentences) and your response to that insight (2-4 sentences).
The book really trys to sellthat mid wifes are better then doctors. And that women can really have the birth that they want to have, As weel as have birth with out much pain. I think that this is good because when I look back my sister had a mid wife and had a good labor. She didn't feel anything and she was calm and had my niece they way she wanted to.
3. List 5 interesting aspects of pregnancy and birth discussed in the second hundred pages that you agree deserve wider attention (include page number).
1. where c-section came from(pg 107)
2. that fathers was not always allowed in the room(pg 127)
3.that men would study women having babies (pg 139)
4.the tools that they use(pg 161)
5. the chair they have to help them give birth(pg 183)
4. Independently research one crucial factual claim by the author in the second hundred pages and assess the validity of the author's use of that evidence.
Monday, March 14, 2011
HW 38 - Insights from pregnancy & birth book - part 1
1. How the book is organized (2-3 sentences)
The book is organized to get you to understand womens bodies, and how they work and changed over time to talking bout midwifes and their jobs and how it changed over time as well. Then it goes on to talk about the beginning of pregnancy and the differences in different pregnancy's.
2. The major question the book tries to answer (1-2 sentences) and some responses you have to that question (2-4 sentences).
The major question that it trying to answer now is how did people in the past had babies. As weel as how animals have babies and why are thing different.
3. The major insight the book tries to communicate in the first 100 pages (1-3 sentences) and your response to that insight (2-4 sentences).
The major insight that it tried to give is that pregnancy is a hard thing to go through. That everyone doesn't have the same problems and it is hard to really say what is going to happen to you. I think that from these insight it meade me think more about if I want kids in the future. That I may not have the birth that I want so is ir really worth going throught all of that pain for a baby that you have to spend all your time taking care of.
4. 5 interesting aspects of pregnancy and birth that you (and the author) agree deserve public attention (1-2 sentences each)
1.Hman women are the only ones that need help with their birth
2.Being among strangers can retard labor
3.Two centuries ago midwives were major figures in their communities
4.Most midwives help immigrants
5.Some cultures have beliefs about birth.
5. The author's use of evidence - what support does the author build for her/his arguments, how reliable do you find the evidence, how deftly does the author use the evidence without stalling the progress of the book?
Suggestions for each of the 5 points above;
Family, Scientist, Midwives,People from diffrent cultures.
The book is organized to get you to understand womens bodies, and how they work and changed over time to talking bout midwifes and their jobs and how it changed over time as well. Then it goes on to talk about the beginning of pregnancy and the differences in different pregnancy's.
2. The major question the book tries to answer (1-2 sentences) and some responses you have to that question (2-4 sentences).
The major question that it trying to answer now is how did people in the past had babies. As weel as how animals have babies and why are thing different.
3. The major insight the book tries to communicate in the first 100 pages (1-3 sentences) and your response to that insight (2-4 sentences).
The major insight that it tried to give is that pregnancy is a hard thing to go through. That everyone doesn't have the same problems and it is hard to really say what is going to happen to you. I think that from these insight it meade me think more about if I want kids in the future. That I may not have the birth that I want so is ir really worth going throught all of that pain for a baby that you have to spend all your time taking care of.
4. 5 interesting aspects of pregnancy and birth that you (and the author) agree deserve public attention (1-2 sentences each)
1.Hman women are the only ones that need help with their birth
2.Being among strangers can retard labor
3.Two centuries ago midwives were major figures in their communities
4.Most midwives help immigrants
5.Some cultures have beliefs about birth.
5. The author's use of evidence - what support does the author build for her/his arguments, how reliable do you find the evidence, how deftly does the author use the evidence without stalling the progress of the book?
Suggestions for each of the 5 points above;
Family, Scientist, Midwives,People from diffrent cultures.
Wednesday, March 2, 2011
HW 37 Comments on Birth & Pregnancy Stories.
Hey Ally,
I like how you talked about the danger taht comes with having a baby. And how you talked about girls that get raped and don't know what to do with the baby or even if they should keep it. I think that people should think about these things. But I think that one thing that you should do next time is write who you talked to because at first I thought you were talking about your self. But good job
Hey Luz.
I like that you asked people that you were close with and women you look at up. Also how after the interviews you thought about what they said and really thought about how that change you thoughts or mad you think even more how most people feel that way. Great job.
Hey Brandon,
You really seem to think about what these women that gave birth had to say. YOu really seem to understand what they are trying to say about birth. But you should reread before you post. Good job
I like how you talked about the danger taht comes with having a baby. And how you talked about girls that get raped and don't know what to do with the baby or even if they should keep it. I think that people should think about these things. But I think that one thing that you should do next time is write who you talked to because at first I thought you were talking about your self. But good job
Hey Luz.
I like that you asked people that you were close with and women you look at up. Also how after the interviews you thought about what they said and really thought about how that change you thoughts or mad you think even more how most people feel that way. Great job.
Hey Brandon,
You really seem to think about what these women that gave birth had to say. YOu really seem to understand what they are trying to say about birth. But you should reread before you post. Good job
Sunday, February 27, 2011
HW 36 - Pregnancy & Birth Stories
1. How did pregnancy affect you physically, emotionally, or in other ways?
2. What did you do, while pregnant, to prepare for giving birth?
3. What actions and attitudes by specific other people made your pregnancy and birth more joyous? More challenging?
4. What thoughts and feelings influenced your choice to make a baby?
5. What feelings come back to you when you remember labor and giving birth
Aunt Nessa:
1.I was sick in the first three months. I was happy for first child because I was 26 and wanted a baby. My second child I was like oh shit, I was a little scared because I was not ready for this one or had planeed it.
2.While I was pregnant I read alot of books, did alot of walking, I also took classes on things, and saw the doctors alot to make sure everything is ok
3.Their daddy was happy and everyone was happy for me good
4.The reason why I had my baby is because I was ready to be a mother, and because O was making good money to take care of me and my baby
5.While I was pregnant I had beautiful skin and I did go through what some women say they go through butr the labor part was the worst part of my life. I would never wish that on anyone I know or hate.
My Sister:
My sister was 19 when she found out she was pregnant with my niece. She tried top hide it from my mom as lomg as she could until she started to show. My mom was sad that she was having a baby so young but she did help my sister 100 percent. And she as happy that she got a granddaughter. But sometimes my sister wishes she would have waited to have my niece so that she could of had a life and go out with her friends. and the crazy part is that all her close friends had babies the same year she had my niece.
My Mom:
My mom had me and my sieter. My sister was more of a surprise to my mom she was 16 and was not ready nor did she know she was pregnant. She went 4 months with out knowing that she was having a baby and by the time she found out she had to have her. And on top of that my sister cane out after 6 months and sooo small. And everyone was disappionted in my mom and since my mom was 16 she was unfit to take care of a child so my grandmother did. So my mom knew that her next child was going to be when she was ready to take care of a child in all the ways she could.
2. What did you do, while pregnant, to prepare for giving birth?
3. What actions and attitudes by specific other people made your pregnancy and birth more joyous? More challenging?
4. What thoughts and feelings influenced your choice to make a baby?
5. What feelings come back to you when you remember labor and giving birth
Aunt Nessa:
1.I was sick in the first three months. I was happy for first child because I was 26 and wanted a baby. My second child I was like oh shit, I was a little scared because I was not ready for this one or had planeed it.
2.While I was pregnant I read alot of books, did alot of walking, I also took classes on things, and saw the doctors alot to make sure everything is ok
3.Their daddy was happy and everyone was happy for me good
4.The reason why I had my baby is because I was ready to be a mother, and because O was making good money to take care of me and my baby
5.While I was pregnant I had beautiful skin and I did go through what some women say they go through butr the labor part was the worst part of my life. I would never wish that on anyone I know or hate.
My Sister:
My sister was 19 when she found out she was pregnant with my niece. She tried top hide it from my mom as lomg as she could until she started to show. My mom was sad that she was having a baby so young but she did help my sister 100 percent. And she as happy that she got a granddaughter. But sometimes my sister wishes she would have waited to have my niece so that she could of had a life and go out with her friends. and the crazy part is that all her close friends had babies the same year she had my niece.
My Mom:
My mom had me and my sieter. My sister was more of a surprise to my mom she was 16 and was not ready nor did she know she was pregnant. She went 4 months with out knowing that she was having a baby and by the time she found out she had to have her. And on top of that my sister cane out after 6 months and sooo small. And everyone was disappionted in my mom and since my mom was 16 she was unfit to take care of a child so my grandmother did. So my mom knew that her next child was going to be when she was ready to take care of a child in all the ways she could.
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
HW 35 - Other Peoples' Perspectives 1
Most people my age or in my age range kind of feel that same way. We mostly feel like we are to youg to have kids. But there are some kids that do find it cute to have kids when they young, not really knowing what it is really like to have a baby. Even from looking at the show 16 and pregnant these girls have babies and show the whole world how they should not be having kids or ready to be mothers but they think that it is cute. And know people are get pregnant just to be on the show, it seems like now days having a baby is something that is looked at as something that not that serious.
So I asked people that I know wat they think and this what they said:
My sister: I never wanted to have kids at a young age. But I ended up getting pregnant at 19 and having a baby at 20. At first it was cute because me and my friend were all pregnant at the same time and we had little thoughts about how our life would be. That quickly changed after I started to show and my mom saw and got on my case. Then as I got closer to my due date I realize life would not be the same or the way I thought.
Nia: I think that it is dumb because we are still kids and we don't know enought for another life to be dependent on us
Tykeem: Well I think that it is stupid because that means that they wasn't using protection so that meand that really didn't care to begin with. But I us to it because there are a lot of pregnant girls and mother at Clinton. I mean me personally it don't mean nothing to mean because I am not with them.
Queen: I wouldn't have a baby I would get an abortion. And I would be scared and nervous.
Marquis:It is kind of dumb becuase they are still young. And then most of the time the man leaves they, so they are stuck with a baby by their selves.
So I asked people that I know wat they think and this what they said:
My sister: I never wanted to have kids at a young age. But I ended up getting pregnant at 19 and having a baby at 20. At first it was cute because me and my friend were all pregnant at the same time and we had little thoughts about how our life would be. That quickly changed after I started to show and my mom saw and got on my case. Then as I got closer to my due date I realize life would not be the same or the way I thought.
Nia: I think that it is dumb because we are still kids and we don't know enought for another life to be dependent on us
Tykeem: Well I think that it is stupid because that means that they wasn't using protection so that meand that really didn't care to begin with. But I us to it because there are a lot of pregnant girls and mother at Clinton. I mean me personally it don't mean nothing to mean because I am not with them.
Queen: I wouldn't have a baby I would get an abortion. And I would be scared and nervous.
Marquis:It is kind of dumb becuase they are still young. And then most of the time the man leaves they, so they are stuck with a baby by their selves.
Monday, February 14, 2011
HW 34 - Some Initial Thoughts On Birth
Birth..... when I think of birth I think of pain. And people always say it is the worst pain but could it be more worst then getting ran over by 10 cars? From being in the room watching my sister my niece I could feel/ imagine the pain that she was going through in my stomach but I feel that same pain when I see anything that looks painful. But I think that as humans when we don't know how something is going to be or feel we come up with the worst pain and it doesn't even feel as bad as we thought. So does that mean giving birth really hurt or we are just making it more then we know because we have not gone through it.
Another thing I think about is what if someone doesn't want it have their baby but they have to have. Like do you go through those 6-9 months carrying the baby to just give it up, or do you keep it? And in this time people look at you crazy if you do decide to give up your baby. They say how could you care something for 9 months and not feel close to it. But I don't think that they are noit thinking about that , I feel that they would want to keep a baay that has you in t. But the it is not about you it is about the kid, what is going to be best for the kid.
How can some one be pregnant and not know it?
What does it feel like to know you have a person inside of you?
Why don't babies remember anything?
When does it become real when you have the baby or when you know about it?
Do men feel the same about being a father as women do about being a mother?
What is really going on in the body throughout the 9 months
Another thing I think about is what if someone doesn't want it have their baby but they have to have. Like do you go through those 6-9 months carrying the baby to just give it up, or do you keep it? And in this time people look at you crazy if you do decide to give up your baby. They say how could you care something for 9 months and not feel close to it. But I don't think that they are noit thinking about that , I feel that they would want to keep a baay that has you in t. But the it is not about you it is about the kid, what is going to be best for the kid.
How can some one be pregnant and not know it?
What does it feel like to know you have a person inside of you?
Why don't babies remember anything?
When does it become real when you have the baby or when you know about it?
Do men feel the same about being a father as women do about being a mother?
What is really going on in the body throughout the 9 months
Sunday, January 2, 2011
HW 27 - Visiting an unwell person
I did not visit anyone due to it being the holidays, but I do talk to my father everyday about my sick grandmother. And from talking to him I see that I am happy that my father does not take me up there to see her. I do love her and want to let her know how much I love her before she died, but I know I will not be able to look at her and deal with that fact that she is dying. So that showed me how even though she is dying and ill all me and my dad can think about is how we feel.
From talking to him I said to really see how we don't want people to see us ill, or other people don't want to see us ill. We try to hide the fact that we are dying. Most of us want to act like if people don't see us and act the way they do we will forget that we are sick and that things will be better. I learned that some of us are a little more ok with death and ok with sharing that trip with everyone. That there is nothing to be scared of, but shouldn’t we be scared. Why should be not be scared of not moving, thinking, eating and loving again?
From talking to Beth and her trip with her husband dying I never think I could do that. Because when you come down to it I selfish. And we all are, we just don't want to say it. I could not look at them as they turn into nothing and never mind that they have to look, feel and think about dying. I could not tell them it is going to be ok when I know that I am lying even when they are hoping they will. I can't be there and just have the thoughts of things while in a few seconds, months, years they will be dead. I could not think about them because I would be busy thinking about myself. And not meaning to but it just happening.
So from this unit I learned that I not ok with death and that most people aren't. I can't stop it or change when it is going to happen. Nor can most people tell people that they are dying. But then most we can do is just live life and tell the ones we love that we love them.
From talking to him I said to really see how we don't want people to see us ill, or other people don't want to see us ill. We try to hide the fact that we are dying. Most of us want to act like if people don't see us and act the way they do we will forget that we are sick and that things will be better. I learned that some of us are a little more ok with death and ok with sharing that trip with everyone. That there is nothing to be scared of, but shouldn’t we be scared. Why should be not be scared of not moving, thinking, eating and loving again?
From talking to Beth and her trip with her husband dying I never think I could do that. Because when you come down to it I selfish. And we all are, we just don't want to say it. I could not look at them as they turn into nothing and never mind that they have to look, feel and think about dying. I could not tell them it is going to be ok when I know that I am lying even when they are hoping they will. I can't be there and just have the thoughts of things while in a few seconds, months, years they will be dead. I could not think about them because I would be busy thinking about myself. And not meaning to but it just happening.
So from this unit I learned that I not ok with death and that most people aren't. I can't stop it or change when it is going to happen. Nor can most people tell people that they are dying. But then most we can do is just live life and tell the ones we love that we love them.
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